Time to let go

Are some girls not meant to be girlfriends?
Are some girls just good for one thing and the men they love and want
can't commit to them because they don't know what they want or have?

I’ve often heard about a girl that has this relationship with a man
where he is not willing to commit 100%. He loves spending time with her,
but on his terms of course. Usually that time is spent in bed.
They have loads in common and she makes him laugh, but it doesn't seem
to be enough for the man.
Why?

The woman does everything she can to make the man see her.
The way she deserves to be seen.
More than just someone he shares a moment of passion with.
She asks herself what is wrong with her.
Why can't he love her the way she loves him?

Is she ever going to be the one for him? Or just someone to waste some time with?
He tells her he cares about her, but he never makes an effort when she needs him the most.

She finally gets courage enough to end things with this man, because she deserves better.
It hurts her. Pains her that he can't see what is in front of him.
She hopes that he will realise one day that he had something amazing, but was
too blind to see.

Years go past, the girl meets other men. That guy she left is sometimes on her mind.
When she walks down the street and walks past one of the places they used to go to.
A song might remind her about the times they shared.

One day she gets a message.
It's him. He says he wants to talk to her.
He asks her how she is. She tells him she is good. She is seeing someone and she is happy.
What about the guy?

He has been seeing a girl for a while and moved in with her. Not long after
they ended things. The girls’ heart stops for a second. She wonders who this girl is that was worth committing to. Someone he barely knew.

She felt so small and lost. What was wrong with her?


But then he says something that shakes her entire world. He tells her he hasn't stopped thinking about her.
That he misses her and what they had.
 
The girl smiles to herself and knows that she was right.
He finally realised that he had lost something amazing and he had come back to
see if she had forgotten about him.
She hadn't.


But it was too little too late.

  



This story could may as well be about a man.
I chose to write about it from a womans perspective.

Love is a tricky thing.


Kommentarer
Postat av: Anonym

Love isn't tricky - its simple. As long as you can be open and honest with YOURSELF and others as well. The great pain that is caused is caused by a sense that we were (intentionally or not) lied to or deceived. It is only when you have the courage to look inside and KNOW yourself and be honest with yourself and act upon those truths that the pain stops. For you and for others in your life. I do not truly believe it is that complicated to KNOW love or to know what is NOT love. But it requires people to be open and honest with you and themselves. Something which seems to me to be an increasingly rare thing. Everyone wants to have their cake and eat it. When you realise that that road will only lead you to unimaginable painand heartache (for themselves and for the people they profess to care for) and ACT upon it - THEN and only then healing can begin.

2010-01-21 @ 15:34:49
Postat av: Anonym

So I've seen it from both sides - it made me somewhat teary.



A little reminder of some things for me which feel like unstiching old wounds.



Very well written and very moving.



2010-01-21 @ 18:38:02
Postat av: Sweden Study

duktig:)

2010-01-21 @ 20:51:40
URL: http://www.swedenstudy.se
Postat av: Helia

Jäkligt fint skrivet gumman, gave me tears! Känner igen det SÅÅÅÅ väl!! Läser din blogg lite då och då, undrar hur du har det och så.. Take care kisses!!

2010-02-02 @ 15:13:32
Postat av: Anonym

Jäkligt fint skrivet gumman, gave me tears! Känner igen det SÅÅÅÅ väl!! Läser din blogg lite då och då, undrar hur du har det och så.. Take care kisses!!

2010-02-02 @ 15:14:13

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